As I mentioned in my last post I had 4 dates (all with different women) set up for the upcoming week and I felt like they all had potential to turn into a serious relationship. Here’s a quick update:
Woman #1 stood me up. Well, technically she cancelled about half an hour before we were supposed to meet. She called me in a distressed voice saying she wasn’t going to be able to make it. I was a little… um… surprised. I asked her if everything was OK but she didn’t want to get into it. She said she’d call me back but never did. Man, that was quite rude. After getting over the initial disappointment I felt happy that this woman showed her true colors so quickly – that she’s a flake that doesn’t have her sh*t together. This is someone that a friend of mine set me up with so it was going to be a blind date.
Woman #2: we had an amazing date – really really connected. Definite attraction there. We went for a long walk in a park, then grabbed a bite to eat, then she invited me home to her place – and nothing happened. I didn’t want to make this into another opportunity to get some “action”. That’s not where I’m at these days. We just hung out and talked and connected even further at her place. A really great date and we made plans to go out again next week.
Woman #3: had a really good date with her, as well. Didn’t connect with her as deeply as with Woman #2 because Woman #3 is more introverted and cautious when meeting new people. But we definitely have common interests and the physical attraction is there. We did a lot of bantering – all that bantering from pick up practice comes in handy in situations like this. We also made plans to see each other next week.
Woman #4: haven’t gone out with her yet but we’re confirmed to get together in a few days.
I feel pretty good but I’m a little stressed about the “what if” scenario – what if I end up really liking more than one woman and won’t be able to choose. Sure, some people might think this isn’t a bad problem to have but it’s got me a little worried. I’ve already set up second dates with Woman #2 and #3 and this is before I’ve gone out with Woman #4.
Overall, I’m quite happy that I’ve now got choices with women of this calibre. I would call the women I’ve recently gone out with “high quality” women – i.e. physically attractive, share my background, share my values. I think I’m heading in the right direction.

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June 11, 2007 at 11:56 am
Kerstin
Congratulations. Sounds like you’re making good progress.
June 11, 2007 at 12:26 pm
datingguy
Thanks, Kerstin! I feel I’m going through a big positive change in life right now.
August 10, 2007 at 1:57 pm
Mike
Hello Dating Guy,
I’ve read your whole blog, and love it! I think you’re an awesome guy, and I’m trying to do the exact same thing as you, speak to as many people as possible, but I’m still far far away from your social skills, I’m still stuck in my FUD mode whenever I have to talk to a stranger… I’m working on it, and your blog is of great help.
Why the secret? Are you concerned that some of your dates might read this blog and recognise you and/or themselves?
I’m just wondering why you’re being so secretive about yourself: you don’t want to reveal your age, your nationality, your job (we only know you work from home), your city (I assume it’s London), and the fact that you’re Jewish
The reason I’d like to know more about you and your background is that your whole blog is about finding a connection with other people, and I’m definitely finding a connection with you, since I read your adventures and can think of many similar situations, and I would love to know more about you. If you don’t want to reveal it on this blog, can you at least send me an email? That would be really sweet.
Keep up the good work, and I wish you loads of amazing encounters
Take care
xxx Mike