I was talking to a good friend of mine yesterday and he tells me he bumped into my ex-girlfriend the other night at a dance club.
“How did she look?” I ask, trying to unsuccessfully sound like I don’t care.
“Pretty good,” he replies.
Damn. She was a fine looking woman and I never lost my attraction towards her.
“Was she with someone?” I ask, again sounding more concerned that I should be.
“She was with a girlfriend,” he answers.
So I guess she’s still single. When I think about it, we were so not right for each other. But we were together for almost 4 years and lived together 1.5 years. At one time in my life I thought she was The One. My friend mentioning her today made me think of those happy times we enjoyed when we first got together – like life was getting better and better and everything felt so right.
I haven’t talked to her since we broke up 7 months ago and I felt like I was truly over her. And yet one mention of her and some stupid thoughts come back in my head like maybe I should contact her. I’m not going to follow these thoughts but it just reminded me how much I crave that feeling of finding the right woman again.
The Dating Guy 
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April 30, 2007 at 4:25 am
Louisa
It’s tough resisting that pull of the familiar…
April 30, 2007 at 8:15 am
datingguy
Yeah, you’re right, Louisa. I’m trying to focus on all the positive things that have happened since then. My gut is telling me that I’m on the right path to finding the right woman – going back is not the answer.
May 14, 2007 at 9:23 pm
wolfcub
You’ll know when you’re over her because you’ll be able to meet her as a friend and have her tell you about a boyfriend …. and you’ll be fine with it.
It took me two years …
May 14, 2007 at 10:56 pm
datingguy
wolfcub – thanks for sharing. I’m not sure I’ll ever meet her again. We haven’t spoken since we broke up. But in case we bump into each other, I’ll keep your advice in mind. My hope is that I’ll already be with my future wife by that time.